I received some advice over the weekend that I loved and thought I would share. This advice pertains to a very specific situation for me, but I think it can apply to everyone.
The advice was: check your guilt at the door.
Complainers exist. They will always find something to whine about. They are the people who get the small eggshell in an otherwise flawless batch of cookies, find fault with an incredible person, and work hard to point out every potential offense that could possibly occur, even dating back years. They are the Rapunzel who complains about Prince Charming hurting her head, even though they are on a white horse escaping from the wicked witch.
My friends, check your guilt at the door.
You can never please a complainer, don't even try. Like Gangrene, it will infect your optimism and decay your well-being. It is better to amputate a complainer than to allow the bacteria to affect your life.
Now I realize that complaining about a complainer might, in essence, make me appear to be a complainer, but please observe that I am selectively complaining. Or perhaps the first symptoms of complainer syndrome actually begin by complaining about a complainer?
Nah. I'm just offering this up as a public service announcement. I can't be a complainer. I'm a writer.
I hate it when the prince pulls your hair while saving you. Not to mention that he has one finger longer than another and his horse has a small patch of dirt on it. I can't believe people drivecars with out hub cap. Man that is a lot of work. Complaining is hard. Oddly, I don't feel any better.
ReplyDeleteI believe there is a difference between complaining and venting.
ReplyDeleteVenting is an emotionally healthy activity where one spews out all of their frustrations over a particular matter in order to prevent negative feelings from festering and causing ulcers and other sordid diseases.
Complaining is picking something apart for pure sport or to make someone feel better about themselves.
I think what you have done here is vented. Bravo!
I loved Linda's description of venting. Seriously, has anyone said it better than that?
ReplyDeleteI love the idea of checking my guilt at the door because I tend to feel guilty for everything.
Great Post, Deb. I'll be quoting you on my blog tomorrow. Stop by and check it out.
ReplyDeleteLinda, excellent distinction!
ReplyDeleteC.K., thanks for your comment. I will definitely check out your blog tomorrow :)
I need to check my guilt at the door. That is totally something I've struggled with lately.
ReplyDeleteI've been complaining too. Man it all ends NOW!!!
Life's too good to waste on complaining.
Amen!
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