First of all, the picture is not of my house, but it's close enough to how my kids keep their bedrooms that I thought I'd post it. Also, the article linked to it is actually moderately fascinating. Now on to my dilemma!
I have a choice before me: Should I beat my kids into submission? Or should I try a more persuasive attitude when trying to get them to clean up their own messes (FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS GREEN AND HOLY!!!!!!). Seriously, what's the harm in taking them by the arm and forcing them to pick up every last Easter candy wrapper they dropped and put them in the trash can? On the other hand, I could persuade them that the merits of a clean home far outweigh the small imposition of time it takes to do the actual cleaning.
Well? What would YOU do?
Yeah, as tempting as it is to just MAKE them do the things that I want them to do by virtue of me being bigger and stronger, I'm beginning to realize that this type of leadership is very counterproductive. Not to mention, there's not a lot of love lost. The core problem, come to find out, is that 'leading with love' leaves me (the leader) in a vulnerable position. What if I have company coming and the chores I've doled out aren't completed? Does it make my kids look bad? No. It makes ME look bad. So, the right choice is to go with the heavy-handed rule. Right? It gets the job done and leaves no egg on my face. Only, the problem with this method is that it takes so much MORE work!
I know that the 'leading with love' takes some time and effort from me initially, but in a few years they'll be self-sufficient and I'll be able to give them their chores without wondering if they feel their duties important enough to focus on. (The better option). Ruling my house like a dictator would have me watching my back for the anarchy and chaos that would ensue. Because, eventually they'd rebel.
Somewhere in there is a great writing example. I'm sure you all are smart enough to find it. :)